Confidence is a Good Thing.
You can quote me on that. Maybe write it down on a slip of paper and bring it out when you hear someone say that confidence is a Bad Thing. “Aha!” you can shout, “look, I have proof on this piece of paper right here in my hand that’s it’s not a Bad Thing. Came from this Steve guy. English dude.”
But arrogance? Arrogance (sometimes mistakenly called over-confidence) is another kettle of fish entirely. So much so that it isn’t even a kettle and doesn’t have any fish in it.
Here are 5 signs that you’re an arrogant ass-hat.
1. Nobody else gets a word in
It’s not simply that you love to be the centre of attention. The hard truth is that you’re more interesting than the other people in the room and have more to say. Whether at a party or in a meeting, the stuff that other people say never really seems to hit the mark. It’s never quite astute enough, clever enough, insightful enough, funny enough or valuable enough, right? If you can add all that value and hit the mark every time, wouldn’t it be a waste, or a crime, not to?
Think of it as a public service. You’re speaking up and being interesting so others don’t have to.
2. You’re right. Period.
You know your way is the right way, you just know it. Everyone else wants to go round the houses, cover all the bases or do their due diligence. Others seem determined to go about things in a way that’s nowhere near as efficient and effective as it should be. So you state your case, let people know they’re wrong and even get into arguments because you know full well your way will get the best result.
If only they’d listen to you more of the time they’d get great results all of the time.
3. You can’t date just anybody
You can have your pick of partners, but if you dated the first guy or gal to come along not only would you be settling, but you’d be selling yourself short too. You’d be dooming the relationship to failure before it’s started.
No, you’ve got to be sure that your date—whoever the lucky soul is—is capable of keeping up with you (even if they can’t match you) as well as recognising what a catch you are.
Maybe you should hold auditions…
4. You can deliver the moon on a stick
You’re damn good. You really are. Other people are content to go for reasonable challenges or to push themselves just a little bit. You’re different. You’re better than that. If you need to deliver something in a week, you can likely deliver it in half the time or deliver twice as much. Double the fun.
It wouldn’t be right to limit yourself to a level of performance that you can far exceed; limits are for wimps. Don’t settle for what other people can do; you know that you can go further, stronger, longer and faster than them. Let the world know.
5. People don’t “get you”
You do and do and do, and still people never seem to grasp how good you are. Friends have come and gone, romantic dalliances seem to be short-lived and even colleagues and bosses criticise you for tiny things that have no bearing on the results you get. That’s okay though, you don’t need other people and it’s probably nothing more than a little bit of jealousy on their part.
The fact that other people don’t get you doesn’t mean that you need to lower your standards. Stay strong.
I’m being facetious.
If you find yourself doing any one of these things then make sure you recognise it. If you find yourself doing all of them, then I have an emergency coaching session on standby with your name on it…
Just please…don’t be too full of ass-hatery to not to use it.