ActionPoint > A Treat Every Day

It’s not just puppies who need treats.

You do too.

So, why is it that having run around after everyone else so much you feel a little pang of guilt before, during or after doing something lovely for yourself?

Guilt shouldn’t be any part of taking good care of yourself, being kind to yourself or treating yourself to some of life’s little pleasures, should it?

That’s rhetorical; the answer’s no.

I believe that being able to accept a gift from yourself is a way of engaging with gratitude, and so here’s what I want you to do:

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  1. Give yourself one treat every day for the next 30 days.
  2. The simpler the better. A walk in the sunshine. Playing a favourite song. Taking a nap in your favourite chair. Singing in the shower or the car. A muffin on a Saturday morning. Reading the papers in bed on a Sunday morning. Taking time out to journal. Going for a light jog. Getting an early night. Going out for lunch. Catching a movie with or grabbing a glass of wine with a good friend. Enjoying a hug with someone you love (feel free to take this one a little further too). Doesn’t matter what it is, just do it.
  3. If you miss a day, the 30 day period starts again from day 1.

Add a comment with what you get up to during the 30 days and what happens at the end…


  1. I think guilt free is the tough part, but it’s important. 🙂

    • Steve Errey says:

      Guilt may well be the tougher part of this, and largely the point 🙂

      Brene Browns definition of guilt is the belief that “I’m bad”, a belief that does more damage than most things I know of. Treating yourself has absolutely nothing to do with being a bad person – it’s a barrier that needs crossing.

  2. Michael Cavitt says:

    Hi Steve
    I am rereading Thomas Leonard’s “The Portable Coach”. Step One: Become Incredibly Selfish is in line with your post today. I’m emailing you a screen capture of the page.

    • Steve Errey says:

      I’m an admirer of Thomas Leonard’s but haven’t read “The Portable Coach”, so thanks for the heads up Michael. I love the image you emailed through, particularly the sentence “Selfishness, as defined for our purposes, ultimately allows you to be more generous and supportive of others than you have ever been before.

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