Do it
The entire, entire point of this blog is to be a springboard, a vehicle – hell, a fucking starship – for your universe-denting antics.

I’ve been doing this confidence coaching thing for over a decade, and I’ll use everything I’ve got to give you concrete insights and tools to bring to life what matters to you and I’ll help you put your dent in the universe in *your* way, but all that’s for naught if you don’t get out there and start taking action.

The universe ain’t gonna dent itself

ActionPoints will be appearing here from now on; the focus of which are to have you go out into your life and take action.

Everything I’ll ask you to do are:

– things I’ve asked clients to do many times
– things clients have done that have made beautiful and meaningful change happen
– things I’ve done myself

I’m not remotely interested in sitting on high and preaching at you. Every ActionPoint will be something tangible that I’ve done myself and something that’s helped clients start something that’s beautiful and meaningful to them.

And I want you to have all that too.

So how about we make a deal?  I’ll give you a tangible ActionPoint right now, and you give it your best shot.  Deal?

ActionPoint >>
As you’re going about your daily life, whether at home, at work or at play; whether with friends, with family or with colleagues, I want you to notice when you’re not at your best.

Simple as that.  A nice easy one to start with.

Set the intention right now that the next time you’re not being at your best you’ll gently acknowledge it and put a name to it. Then notice it the next time, and the next time after that.

Oh well looky here, that thing Steve mentioned about me not being at my best?  Happening right now.  I’m not being at my best.  Whaddaya know.”

Importantly, don’t do anything with it.

Don’t tell yourself to pull your socks up. Don’t force yourself to pick up the pace. Don’t beat yourself up for not being at your best.

Resist the temptation to change it or fix it. The only thing I want you to do is gently, open-heartedly, curiously and non-judgementally notice when you’re not at your best, purely in the interests of knowing yourself a little bit better.

Let me know what happens.


  1. Done. We have a deal! 🙂 And actually, I don’t feel my best right this minute.

    Great post, and a big thanks for the The Code of Extraordinary Change. Beautifully presented in perfect bite-sized chunks. I am looking forward to more from you.


    • Steve Errey says:

      Then my timing was perfect. Thanks for the feedback and brilliant that you’re diving in!

  2. Patricia says:

    Yep. I am doing this more now to try to make sure my thoughts don’t run away with me. Thoughts are NOT always the truth. And sometimes, I can just try to change that thought into “You have NO idea what IS going to happen, so stop thinking the worst.”

    • Steve Errey says:

      Often simply being aware of a thought is all that’s needed to change it. It’s like Heisenberg’s Uncertainty Principle that states that you can’t observe something without changing it. Awareness is the start of many cool things.

  3. What if we feel like we’re not at our best, most of the time? (Which is a big part of why I’m here…)

    It’s hard to put together a whole string of gentle reminders that feels truly genuine, if you know what I mean….

    • Steve Errey says:

      Same thing applies. You don’t need to put pressure on yourself to remind yourself (or beat yourself up for not remembering). Just start to notice.

      You can also reverse it. Gently start to notice those times when you’re at your best or not “not at your best”. The noticing is the aim here.

  4. Karen Gerber says:

    At one point in my life, I lived with a child diagnosed with ADD. I learned then to share a game we called “Catch Her Being Good”. That put the emphasis on positive behavior. Thank you for the reminder!

    • Steve Errey says:

      There’s a practice/movement called Positive Deviance, which is all about noticing and leveraging what works over what doesn’t – thanks for the great example Karen.

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