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Get A Kick Up The Ass This Weekend

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Bucketlist Bootcamp
Sometimes, you need a kick up the ass to get you going.

And with 2017 stretching out ahead of you, it’s natural to want to get moving on something meaningful.

So this weekend (January 21st and 22nd), join me and others at the first ever Bucket List Bootcamp.

There’s going to be a huge amount of insight reaching and action taking, all guided by a darn decent band of speakers that I’m thrilled to be among.

I’m leading a session called “Practical Confidence for a Great Life“. During it, I’ll give you two key pieces of my confidence coaching method—the only two exercises that I insist everyone I work with completes. They’re that fundamental to real, natural confidence, and you can use them over and over again to respond to fear with the confidence you already have.

Get your tickets to the Bucket List Bootcamp right here. Tickets are going for $25, but that link is only for readers of confidence.coach and gives you a special 70% discount.

Join me, the other speakers, and participants from around the world, and let’s start something sweet and beautiful. Last call for tickets here – http://www.passionblueprint.com/bucketlistbootcamp?confidencecoach.

10 Top Tips for a Sweet and Beautiful Life

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10 Top Tips for a Sweet and Beautiful Life
A sweet and beautiful life is not to be sniffed at or dismissed as some arbitrary, fluffy bullshit.

Just think of the opposite kind of life – bitter and ugly.

Yeah, me neither.

Here then, are 10 top tips to live a sweet and beautiful life.

Try compassion. It might just change your mind on things.

Make meaningful friends. And through your behaviour, let them know that they’re meaningful.

Give. Not because it makes you feel good or righteous, but because it’s how you get to express gratitude for what matters to you.

Become imperfect. You’re riddled with imperfection and there’s nothing you can do about it. So just embrace it already.

Do things that matter. Because if you’re not showing up like that in your life, just how are you spending your time?

Tell better stories. Because those old stories that make you feel not good enough aren’t good enough for you.

Dig under hate. Because hate sits on top of pain, and pain is an important vehicle for growth.

Dont sweat the practical stuff. There’s always a solve for the practical stuff in life (I’m a great believer in creating a third option), no matter how shitty or complex.

Create. You and the world become richer through the act of creating something of value.

Integrate. Because it’s by integrating your experience, rather than separating or compartmentalising, that you get to be whole.

Short and to the point, I hope.

Because I don’t want to keep you from getting involved in your own life.

Just holler if I can help.

I’m always around.

Towards the Sweet & Beautiful in 2017

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Towards the Sweet & Beautiful
In 2016, I…

  • Wrote 30 articles, down from 42 in 2015
  • Wrote 11 guest articles across Huffington Post, The Muse and Men’s Fitness
  • Coached nearly double the number of people in 2016 than I did in 2015
  • Spent 80% of the year as sick as a dog, thanks to my old friend M.E.
  • Finished the first end to end draft of my novel, The Kissing Stopped
  • Wrote the Hurt & Hopeful manifesto

It was a frustrating year due to ongoing illness, and I missed a lot of friend and family occasions. And I just had to pull out of a big party in London on December 30th because of yet more ill-health. I’ve been looking forward to that for 3 months.

It also felt very much like I lost some of my mojo when it comes to seeing good people and writing. Friends are somewhat scattered around the world, with many of my favourite people being in the USA, some 3000 miles away, or more. I need good people in my life, and I miss those connections.

Writing came in fits and starts, with brain fog getting in the way a whole lot. But when I look at the list above, and see what I did write, I wrote a lot. That feels pretty good. Perhaps I should give myself a break.

There were days were I could barely stand up or think straight, but every client I spoke with and every question I responded to by email gave me energy and a big dose of the warm-fuzzies. And some people were downright awesome enough to email me just to let me know that something I’d written, somewhere, had helped them.

So perhaps I shouldn’t be so judgmental about how much of the year I was sick for or how little I connected with people.

Point is, it’s the easiest thing in the world to be hard on yourself or beat yourself up for a lacklustre 2016.

Stop it.

You’re doing way better than you give yourself credit for.

Could you do better? Could you crank things up a level? Maybe. Probably.

But please don’t let that diminish your self-worth right now or what you managed to achieve last year. The fact that you’re here, looking forward, counts.

Ignore the people who are talking about making 2017 “epic”, or crushing it or rocking it or any other quarry-based verb. That’s unhelpful hyperbole, and speaks more about their inner narrative than yours. 2017 doesn’t have to be epic, or life-changing or epoch-shifting if those things don’t resonate with you.

Choosing to live an honest life where you can offer simple value to others, is not second-best.

Far from it.

A sweet and beautiful life should never be plan b.

And one things’s for sure. As you move into 2017, I want to help you more.

I want to do things and create things that help you live a sweet and beautiful life.

So, think a little about what that might look for you, Then, if you care to, answer this one question in whatever way feels right:

What is your biggest block to living a sweet and beautiful life?

Don’t hold back.

Life’s too short to not let the truth fly.

Gifts Aren’t Just for Christmas

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Gifts Aren't Just for Christmas

Santa’s on his way, and, if you’re on the Nice List, there’s something stuffed in his sack just for you.

It’s the time for gift-giving, of course. Things wrapped in bows that light up someone’s face when they rip off the wrapping paper. Things that deliver that beautiful moment of surprise and (hopefully) delight. And things that, if you’re honest, you can’t wait to open yourself.

But I got to thinking. Why imbue the giving of a gift with so much importance or gotta-be-right-ness, when every other day of the year you might not think about what you want to give at all.

You have things of texture and richness to give people every single day, but sometimes it’s the people closest to you who get the worst from you.

Enjoy the holidays. Have all the egg-nog you want. Just remember that you can directly impact, for the better, the experience of those around you.

Leave every room better than when you entered.

Hear someone.

Be generous with who you already are.

Don’t stop giving when December 26th comes around.

The Great Bubble Challenge

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Burst your bubble
Along with updates about Marvel superheroes, pictures of dinner and clips of anthropomorphized puppies, my Facebook and Twitter feeds are full of people who agree with me.

That feels pretty good, lemme tell you.

I can sit in my fantastic little bubble here, safe in the knowledge that all is good and that everyone thinks pretty much just like I do.

Wonderful. Or it would be wonderful, if it weren’t for a couple of notable exceptions. Some people have popped up jarringly post-Brexit and post-Trump, with views that I most certainly don’t share. Their posts catch my eye as I’m scrolling away, urging me to read deeper to see what opinion they’re peddling and how wrong they’ve got it.

There’s a certain self-satisfaction is seeing one of these posts and dismissing it as wrong or ignorant or ridiculous. And of course, the temptation to write a humdinger of a comment that will put them straight is delicious.

And then comes that terrible thought… “Do I unfriend…?”

The diminishing nature of truth

There are so many truths these days that nobody can agree on what’s true and what isn’t. People are calling this a post-fact world, with post-truth politics, where facts only need to be a point of view that’s bought into.

Truths gain buoyancy as more people consume and believe them, and we’ve seen how viciously divisive this open-market of truths is.

And when filter bubbles serve us the truths that we’ve already bought into, is it any wonder that people get upset when an opposing view cracks through?

Whether you’re a civil rights activist, a racist, a Christian, a lobbyist, pro-gun, pro-choice, climate change skeptic, educational reformer, lesbian, Muslim or anything else, isn’t it entirely serving division when each of our worlds are aligned to satisfy our own ego?

Filter bubbles make it easier to judge and hate than ever before. I’m wondering not only how well served we are by burgeoning bubbles of “truth”, but how well we can serve others when we live within those bubbles.

Confidence, not complacency

With both Brexit and Trump, I’ve been close to unfriending and unfollowing. I’ve seen posts that have stirred me and riled me. I’ve thought “What the fuck is wrong with you?” and my finger has hovered over that button.

We’re just one click away from cleansing our stream of anything we don’t like, agree with or get offended by.

But confidence within a bubble isn’t confidence at all. It’s blinkered complacency and complicit intolerance.

Confidence is the ability to trust your decisions from a place of wholeness—not from self-righteousness, piety or self-protection.

In what some are already calling the understatement of the century, there are some impossibly hard issues out there. But rather looking for my molly to be coddled or  taking offence, the confident approach is to explore them from a place of curiosity and respect.

We can’t afford to be complacent, not one of us, because that complacency doesn’t serve the things we value.

It undermines them.

Life outside the bubble…

It’s hard, awkward and uncomfortable, but the only choice worth a damn is to burst our bubbles.

It’s outside our bubbles that we stretch ourselves, and others. It’s there where we can ask questions and learn about how other people are trying their best too. And it’s there where we have to practice compassion, no matter what we’re faced with.

I have to be honest with you here. I’m figuring out what this might look like for me, and I’m far, far, far away from having any answers.

But I’m not about to unfriend or unfollow anyone—I’m going to listen more to the things I might prefer not to hear. I’m not going to react to the hate and judgment I see. I’m going to respond to the conditions in which hate and judgement flourish. And I’m not going to judge people from within the confines of my if-only-everyone-would-agree-with-me-bubble. I’m going to consistently entertain the possibility that I’m wrong.

So what I’m interested in, is your experience here.

How do you think you’re changed by filter bubbles?

The Innovation Illusion

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The Innovation Illusion

Companies today wear the term “innovative” like a badge of honour. From Silicon Valley to the Silicon roundabout, organisations ranging from banks to boutique hotels proclaim themselves to embrace innovation both inwardly and outwardly.

A worthy claim, after all, innovation is about the new and the different, and there’s gold in them there hills.

But when you go into some of these organisations and see how they go about “innovating”, they’re heavy with admin, loaded with meetings and rife with the drive towards certainty. Innovation is often just an illusion.

Admin gets slathered on top of existing processes to ripple data upwards and cover cracks in those processes, and people end up spending more time supporting process than the process supports them.

Meetings get slapped into diaries as a response to uncertainty or politics, sometimes pulling in more and more people and often leading to rework, repetition or restraint.

And the good and appropriate responsibility to look after the bottom line can become conflated with achieving certainty in outcomes. With a budget of x, project y must achieve profit z, and all efforts are put to ensuring that outcome. Trouble is, that drive towards certainty either sees people erring on the side of caution, or taking short-cuts that they believe will get them there quicker.

Innovation versus certainty

We humans have a hardwired urge to control our environment and be certain of our safety. It’s an M.O. that lays down the principles minimise danger and maximise reward as our prime directives, where danger is anything risky and reward is anything that ensures our safety.

That M.O. is the death of innovation, and not calling it out is where innovation becomes nothing more than a myth.

Have all the brainstorms, thought-showers, incubators or project dropzones you want. The elephant in the room will continue to stomp on ideas and innovation like a sweaty wrestler on a soufflé.

For real innovation, 3 things need to happen:

1. Speak expectations

The things you expect of yourself, the stuff you expect from other people, and (here’s where it gets really crazy) the things you think others expect of you all spiral around in your head and inform what you do and how you do it. I expect my day to go smoothly. I expect Larry to be a pain in the arse in that meeting. I expect my boss will want me to have an answer for this already.

Often conflicting, these expectations drive people to second-guess what they need to do (and how), and when that happens it’s normal to take the route that a. puts them in the best light, or b. pleases the most people.

Unspoken expectations shortcut innovation, but they don’t survive in the spotlight. So talk about them. Talk about what is and isn’t expected. Talk about how it’s okay to challenge assumptions. Talk about how great work can’t happen if you’re simply delivering in line with expectation.

2. Encourage vulnerability

Picture it. You go into the meeting with your best idea and a spring in your step, thinking that you’ve come up with a brilliant solution to a thorny problem. But then you get you laughed out of the room. Your idea doesn’t work. It’s crazy like a box of frogs. How could you have presented something that is clearly nonsense?

The thought that you’re not good enough or that everyone will find out that you’re not up to the job after all… Terrifying…

So it’s no surprise that the biggest killer of innovation is the fear of getting laughed out of the room. It makes ideas smaller or safer because those are unlikely to blow up in your face. It makes you tread a safer, known road rather than stumbling through a potential minefield in the dark. And it even makes you avoid situations where you risk “getting found out” altogether.

A truly innovative company is one that makes it clear that judgement, shame and blame has no place. It’s one that encourages vulnerability—taking off the safety harness and going out on a limb in the service of great work.

3. Nurture confidence

Picture a workforce that always has to double-check decisions with management. Imagine a team that doesn’t have the courage of their convictions. Or how about an employee who isn’t confident in their ability to contribute something worthy.

There can’t be much innovation when individuals don’t feel confident enough to go into the unknown and see what’s there, and it’s funny how companies conduct 360 degree reviews and send people on presentation skills courses, but rarely, if ever, look at nurturing an employee’s confidence in service of great work.

Why not? Probably because it seems nebulous, or out of scope, or just beyond reach.

Confidence is the ability to trust your behaviour with implicit trust in that behaviour. It’s the partner to vulnerability and the mother of acceptance.

It’s not about investing self-worth in a specific outcome, it’s accepting that you’re enough, right now, no conditions, and that you have nothing to prove. It’s bottom-up (connecting people strongly to who they are and how they are when they’re at their best) and top-down (productively dealing with stuff like second-guessing, self-doubt and people-pleasing that get in the way of confidence). It’s equipping people with the ability to make decisions and trust themselves in the service of great work.

Allowing innovation

To bring these 3 elements to life, there’s a certain amount of “hands off” that’s needed. Oversight, reviews and check-ins are all well and good, unless those things focus solely on certain outcomes.

It’s tempting to build processes to make innovation happen, but innovation can’t be forced any more than a bowl of spaghetti can be forced to speak Italian. Process needs to enable and support great work and innovation. It should work for the teams, not have the teams working for it.

And this “allowing” of innovation is no small feat in itself. It requires trust. A steady nerve. Faith, even.

Things can get messy, uncomfortable and difficult, so for sure, it’s the open, brave and hopeful who are the true innovators.

A Manifesto for the Hurt & Hopeful

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Manifesto for the Hurt & Hopeful
So. It’s been a crazy few months. I’m sure I don’t need to tell you that.

Sometimes words get stuck in my head, and these last few months 2 small words have been rolling around up there.

Hurt, and hope.

I don’t know why those specific words have got stuck in my brain, but I always find that if something keeps tugging at me then it’s there for a reason. So I dug a little, and explored some, and I put together some words that I’ve called a manifesto (for want of a better term).

The way I see it, those 2 small words are things that those of us who try our best, those of us who value compassion, and those of us who exert effort in the direction of the things that matter to us, have in common.

Right now seems like a fitting time to share this with you. Please, go check out the manifesto for the Hurt and the Hopeful.

I’d love to know what you think, and if it strikes a chord in whatever measure, please do feel free to share.

2 Ways to Feel Worthy

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Way I see it, there are 2 ways to feel worthy, good enough and whole.

Approach 1

  1. Wake up
  2. Brush your teeth
  3. Enjoy your morning coffee
  4. Get to work early, leave a little late and work like a pack horse
  5. Go out of your way to make everyone else happy
  6. Make friends with people, even if you’re not sure you have much in common with them
  7. Work as hard as you can to earn peoples’ trust and respect
  8. Then work even harder to be seen as great at what you do
  9. Avoid situations that might show you up or expose a weakness
  10. Give away your time and trust to others
  11. Chalk up your desire for “more” or “better” to fanciful dreaming
  12. Put the needs of others first
  13. Keep your opinion to yourself if you think it won’t be popular or that others won’t like it
  14. Take off your rough edges and shape yourself to be part of different groups
  15. Repress the thought that you might not be good enough
  16. Accept and embrace your place in the pecking order
  17. Seek out moments of praise
  18. …rinse and repeat
    …and repeat
    …and repeat

Approach 2

  1. Wake up
  2. Brush your teeth
  3. Enjoy your morning coffee
  4. Congratulations
  5. You’re already worthy, good enough and whole.

Which one appeals more?

Unlocking Bravery

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Unlocking Bravery
Once upon a time, there was a man who was strong. A heart attack and a quadruple bypass later, he found just how hard he had to work to recover, but he never complained.

He survived an exploded aorta that nobody thought he was coming back from. Once he was finally out of ICU and in the ward, recovering slowly, he cried when he saw his grandchildren walk towards his bed. Like he never thought he’d see them again.

Then, not so long ago, he slipped on a step, landed straight on his spine and completely shattered a vertebrae or two. He was in a hospital room for 6 weeks with fragments of bone a millimetre from pushing into his spinal cord, unable to get out of bed or even sit up, while he awaited news of possible surgery. None came, and the bone fragments fused together in a clump that make it difficult and painful for him to get around to this day.

Laying there in the hospital bed, he got depressed. He started talking about how he’d never leave, and when he finally did get home, he sank further as he lived with daily pain and found how limited his movement was. He was brave enough to get some help, and today, though he’s still hobbling around he’s laughing again with his family.

And now, with the looming prospect of a blood condition that may or may not get worse, he continues to be brave.

That man is my Dad. He’s probably the bravest man I know. (He has to be, he’s been married to my Mum for 50 years. Thank you, try the veal).

Bravery vs Fantasy

We tend to think of bravery as something the knight has as he’s fighting the dragon to save the kingdom. Or what the soldier has pumping through his veins as he dives on the grenade to save his fellow soldiers.

But bravery isn’t always, and rarely is, so dramatic.

Bravery is found in the every day. In the minutiae. In the act of breathing.

Don’t for one second think that your friend who just went skydiving lives more bravely than another friend who’s more of a homebody. That “homebody” might be experimenting with art or writing, opening themselves up to those uncertain and often intensely personal pursuits. They might be dealing with a deep issue that threatens to overcome them, doing the best they can to find their way through. Or they may throw themselves into their relationship wholeheartedly, not wanting to hide behind walls or pretend.

Bravery is hard, if not impossible, to measure from the outside, because it comes from the inside.

Bravery is making a choice based on what truly matters to you, not what doesn’t.

It’s spotting all the compelling reasons not to try, and saying “No, you don’t get to call the shots today.”

It’s not the absence of fear or doubt, but it’s the ability to respond from a place of connection.

My Dad pushed through all of that for one reason: his family.

Hands-down, it’s the most beautiful fucking thing there is.

How to know if you’re brave

Don’t know about you, but I’d love to think that I’m brave. That I’d stand up and do the right thing. That if I believed in something enough and the world was telling me I was wrong and that I should move, that I’d plant my feet and say, “No, you move.

Bravery in the big and small things is what helps us to carve our path through life, but how do you know if you have it? How do you know for sure if you have what it takes?

I think there’s a simple test.

Picture that someone has taken away the thing that matters most to you in the world. Your kids. Your partner. Your creativity. Your compassion. Whatever it is, they’ve reached into your life and taken it. No explanation.

So you have a choice. Do you let them walk away, or, do you exert effort in the interests of what matters most you?

It’s that easy.

And if you’re willing to exert effort in the interests of what matters to you when it’s crunch time, you’re certainly brave enough to do the same when the stakes might be lower.

You may even get stirred into action and rush to someone else’s side to help and support, just because it matters to you, or because it matters to them.

How to unlock bravery

This brave thing seems slippery, doesn’t it? Sometimes you can feel it in your veins, letting you draw from it and do the right thing. Other times, when you feel small and afraid, you wonder if it was every really there at all.

So, how do you access or use personal bravery?

I think there are 2 parts to it.

  1. Explore what matters
    A brave act is one that’s done in service to something that matters, and figuring out what matters demands exploration without expectation.
  2. Practice what matters
    Practice is deliberately engaging with something for no other reason that it matters to you. It’s a deliberate, sometimes radical, act of love.

There are whole worlds within those 2 simple parts—how to let go of expectation, the challenge of practice, etc—but if I was to boil it down, it comes down this.

Bravery doesn’t require strength, it requires love.

If you can love, you’re brave.

The only thing that remains is the direction of that bravery; the places you want to invest it or the ways you want to exhibit it.

Tell me in the comments where you want to invest or exhibit bravery, and let’s see what we can start here.

The Ultimate Guide to Cutting the Crap and Getting Real

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An old friend of mine, younger than me, smarter than me, more giving than me, is in her final days on this planet, due to terminal cancer.

It’s nothing even close to being fair, but this isn’t a post about her, it’s a post about you.

Life has nonsense embedded in it. It’s everywhere. The Kardashians. Religious dogma. Self-appointed “mavens”. The list of nonsense could fill the whole of the Internet, and actually, comes pretty damn close to doing so.

But life is short. And sometimes it’s useful to cut the crap and get real.

Here’s a primer for you…

Quit lying to yourself

We all lie to ourselves about certain things – eating this extra piece of pie doesn’t mean I’m breaking the diet. I’ll just hang on for a few more months to see if things turn around. It’s the wrong time to make my move. I really do want to be with them.

Lying to yourself is only ever about creating a narrative that affords you safety, regardless of how the story you make up might be hurting you.

So ‘fess up.

If you’re spending too much, own it. If you’re miserable, step into it. If you’re being someone else, see it.

What aren’t you accepting about yourself? What are you choosing not to see? How are you making it okay to hide?

None of us are getting out of this thing alive, so lying to yourself while you’re here is nothing but crazy.

Quit wasting time

Wasting time and treading water is the last resort of the terminally indecisive.

Putting off a decision, deciding to wait a bit longer to make a decision or waiting for the perfect alignment of circumstances IS making a decision. Don’t fool yourself that it’s a positive choice, it isn’t.

When there’s a great opportunity coming your way or when a little patience will pay off it can be a good strategy to hold on. But there’s a huge difference between holding on and wasting time, and here’s how you know the difference:

If the choice you’re making to stay where you are is really about keeping you safe and not changing things, you’re just wasting time.

Time is the one thing you can’t buy more of, and wasting it is depriving the world of what you can offer.

Quit listening to assholes

There are a lot of people who will say what you want to hear. There are a lot of people who will offer the earth, take your money and deliver dirt. There are a lot of people who will give you advice that’s self-serving. There are a lot of people who will put you down rather than lift you up. And there are a lot of people who spew ignorant bile disguised as insight or truth.

Whether there’s someone close to you who only ever gives you their worst, a colleague who takes from you and talks you down, or just the shouting, clamouring garbage of 24 hour rolling news, check the messages that you’re taking in.

If you’re only taking in messages that you want to hear or fit with the way you already see things, get real. If you’re only taking in messages that run you down or keep you small, get real. Or if you’re only taking in messages that stir the worst in you, for the sake of everyone around you, get real.

Seek out the genuinely insightful, interesting, expansive and valuable people out there with great messages and great gifts.

Quit chasing a lifestyle

Seems like Facebook and the rest of the Interwebs is full of people trying to sell you a lifestyle, people who would have you believe that their lifestyle is one that you should want. They say “Look at what I’ve done, look at how I live my life – don’t you want that too?” and then proceed to sell you stuff that promises to give you the same.

Honestly, if I hear the term “lifestyle design” one more time I’m going to hurl.

You can’t buy a lifestyle as a solution to the problems in your life. Doesn’t matter if it’s location independence, entrepreneurship, working 4 hours a week, buying a tiny house or going paleo, your life will still be your life.

Quit chasing a lifestyle as a goal, and start dealing productively with the texture of your experience, right now.

Design meaning. Design nourishment. Design value.

Quit needing to be right

Being right is fun, and it sure feels good to know that we correctly called it before anyone knew for certain. Being right also leads people to do crazy shit in pursuit of that outcome, like undermining other people, engineering or “rigging” social encounters or taking a shortcut towards a cheap result.

The urge to be right drives people to engineer circumstances and stories that allow us to feel good about ourselves.

But being right doesn’t mean anything and it certainly doesn’t equal self-worth. In fact, if you place your self-worth on being right the whole time, you’re just masking a deep feeling of not being good enough and the fear of being found out.

So quit it. There’s tangible value in admitting that you’re wrong; value you’ll never realise if you’re continually caught up in the bullshit factory of being right.

Quit making shit up

I’ve fucked it all up. I’m not pretty enough. Other people get all the best chances. He’s horrible for doing that. She’s just a bitch. I can never forgive them for how they hurt me.

Stories, stories, stories.

Your brain is a story-making machine, churning out narratives like shitty airport fiction.

Storytelling is how you try to make sense of the world and what happens to you in it, and your brain will weave stories designed to do 2 things: minimise danger and maximise reward. The stories you tell yourself will be threaded with those principles, whether or not the story serves you well or fucks you over.

Some stories sell you way short, because that’s how you stop trying. Some stories will cast you as the victim, because that makes what happened undeserved. Some stories will fuel indecision, because that keeps you away from risk. Some stories will engineer blame, because that makes you right. And some stories will cast you as the hero, because then it’s always about you.

You are not your narratives. Quit making up stories that represent the very worst of you.

Quit feeling broken

Sometimes, you’re just a hot mess.

In those dark moments where it feels like you’ve fucked it all up or that you’ll never have the kind of life you wished for, it just feels like you’re missing something, like there’s something broken in you that makes it impossible to live a sweet and beautiful life. That there’s something wrong with you.

Newsflash. We all have that feeling. Every. Single. One. Of. Us.

It’s part of being human. The fear that everyone else has figured out what we never will. The fear that we’ll never be good enough for our hopes. The fear that we’ll never be loved because we’re flawed and broken.

The good news is, those flaws and imperfections form part of a whole that would be a hollow, grotesque construct without them.

You’re not broken. It just feels that way sometimes because you’re human. It’s one small piece of the whole that you already are, and having that one small piece become your truth is doing yourself a massive disservice.

A quick word on getting real…

Hanging out in the crap and the fantasy of life is pretty great. Zero responsibility and all the fun of dreaming and wishing.

It’s also a great strategy for deep regret and a diminishing soul.

It’s  a choice you have to make.

Do I keep hanging out, lying to myself, wasting time, listening to assholes, chasing a lifestyle, needing to be right, making shit up and feeling broken, or do I take a stand in my life?

Cutting the crap won’t fix stuff in your life or automatically make you a better person. That still needs work and practice.

But what it will do, is:

  • allow you to take off the armour that weighs so damn heavy
  • stop things from feeling like such a fucking drama the whole time
  • put you in the perfect place to take meaningful action
  • provide a foundation for bravery
  • give you a sense that, actually, you’re doing pretty great

And smack my balls with a sledgehammer if that doesn’t sound like a pretty damn wonderful place to be.

So. Are you ready to cut the crap or what?

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