Hi, I’m Steve Errey.
I help you to 1. Overcome crappy thinking, 2. Feel more confident and 3. Get more peace of mind.
And I have to say, I love it.
Leaders are smart, driven people. They have to be. They’ve amassed a great deal of success (even though they might not give themselves credit for it). They’re motivated to do the best damn job they can (sometimes under impossible circumstances). And they dig deep, day after day, to deliver to their teams, their audience, their customers and their management (sometimes to their own detriment).
First and foremost, of course, they’re human beings. And it’s the juicy spot between being human and being in a new role with a heap of responsibility where I love to help.
My focus is helping these people—people like you—use their natural self-confidence to show up in the world fully and accomplish things that matter.
A little more about me…
I’m Steve. I’m a Gemini, I have blue eyes and wear size 8 shoes.
This confidence coaching stuff gets me goose-bumpy and tingly like nothing else, because confidence is the only true route to real success and underpins everything meaningful you’ll do.
I’ve been coaching people on how they can confidently live their lives since 2002. Over the years, as my hairline slips away like a retreating ice shelf, I’ve been learning more and more about what confidence is, how it works and what gets in its way, a journey that’s also helped me massively in figuring out my own shit (which has been fairly plentiful, lemme tell you).
I’ve had two breakdowns in my life. Once in my teens when I didn’t know anything about life or who I was, and another in my 30’s when I’d been pretending to know things about life and who I was. Not to mention the times when I spent too long trying to fit in and please everyone else, and ended up doubting my ability and my worth as a result.
None of that was any fun, but what scared me most was that I lost my smile.
I’ve dragged myself through the mire, pieced myself back together and figured out who I am. And that’s where I started making my own changes. I trained as a coach. I became responsible for my choices. I acknowledged that my value isn’t dependent on anyone else. And I made choices that reflected what mattered to me the most, not the stuff that didn’t matter a jot.
And since then it’s been a journey of peeling back my own confidence and vulnerability so I can accept my full and unconditional worth, demonstrate self-compassion in the face of emotional challenge and lean gracefully and whole-heartedly into uncertainty.
It’s a continual, consistent practice, made more vital than ever since I was diagnosed with something called CFS/ME in 2008. It’s your basic incurable, debilitating, chronic illness, one that steals energy and replaces it with chronic fatigue, chronic pain, dizziness and a whole host of other fun stuff. Unlike some people with the illness who are bed-bound and can’t do anything for themselves, I’ve figured out how to live with it so that I can still work and get around.
I’ve sought treatments and solutions, dug way down deep past the need to be strong and into love and acceptance, and have discovered things that will benefit me for the rest of my life.
And here I am today
I’m not a guru. I don’t have it all figured out. I laugh at the most inappropriate and politically incorrect things. My flippant and facetious sense of humour regularly sees me putting my foot squarely in my mouth.
At heart, I’m a geek, physical clutz (seriously, I dance like Ernest Borgnine leading a jazzercise class) and a big kid. But I’m always looking to better myself, and what’s most important is that I show up, wholly and imperfectly, as I am.
This page of my site is necessarily self-indulgent, and while I want to give you a sense of who I am and what I’m about I know I don’t have exclusivity on illness, hardship, self-doubt, a crisis of confidence or simply the need to figure shit out. Sometimes life is hard. Sometimes it’s challenging. Sometimes we’re all out of answers. I get that. Maybe you don’t know what to do. Maybe you’re scared. Maybe you need someone in your corner.
I hear you, because I’ve been there too. I hold space for all of that and I admire you to the moon and back.
You’re already whole and wonderfully, brilliantly imperfect. The value of confidence is in accepting that unconditionally so you can show up with everything you’ve got.
If that sounds good to you, click here to learn more about working with me.