One guy I worked with is gigging his way around the US, something he always dreamed of in his teens and early 20’s in suburban London, but he never had the guts to go and do it until recently.
One woman has decided to step away from the pressure to conform to a safe, middle-class life that her family and peers were applying, and continues to explore her life with sparks of vigour, curiosity and playfulness.
And I smiled from ear to ear on receiving an email just the other day from a woman who’s been grappling with her identity, that read, “Things are starting to fall into place and I’m starting to realize how mighty I can be.“
I can say without any shadow of doubt that confidence has changed my life too.
It might even have saved it.
I’m pretty sure I’m not alone.
Confidence has 2 kinds of influence in your life:
- A quiet knowing. The sense that you’ll be okay, no matter what happens, freeing you up to choose what you do and how you do it.
- A burst of courage. The deep breath before a leap, bounding over the gap between what’s known and what’s unknown.
Both of these influences gift you with the capacity to choose your behaviour with implicit trust in that behaviour—you go and do stuff because it matters to you—that can manifest quietly and gracefully, as well as those moments when you see how universe-dentingly mighty you can be.
Self-doubt, fear and second-guessing still hover around in your head, but it’s the self-trust that comes with natural confidence that allows you see those things and still make a choice that serves you well.
Natural confidence is cooler and more exciting than sky diving with Samuel L. Jackson, so I want to hear your story.
I want to hear how confidence has changed your life.
I want to hear how you hope it could change your life in the future.
I want to hear what you might do with a shit-load more confidence.
So, put on your comment bonnet (don’t tell me I’m the only one who has one of those?) and let rip.