CONFIDENCE COACHING

Helping you lead confidently in life and business

I know you're not one to rest on your laurels, or even give yourself praise, but you’ve worked damn hard to get as far as you have, so congratulations and well done. Really.

Whether you're in an organisation, with all those eyeballs on you and people waiting for your direction and decisions and a mountain of expectations on you to deliver, or whether you're looking to become a leader in your own life and have your own sky-high expectations, shit gets real quickly, right?

In creeps that little voice that whispers in your ear, I'm not doing enough. Or, it’s just a matter of time before I fuck this up. Or, what if I'm not good enough?

You tell yourself that you won’t be able to do it, that you’ll screw up and look dumb in front of everybody ir that you’re out of your depth.

With those thoughts in your head and that ripe plum of fear and anxiety in the pit of your stomach, it’s easy to find yourself doing self-defeating things like trying to please others, pursuing perfection and wanting to prove yourself at every step. Not to mention beating yourself up for not being good enough and not having your shit together.

This is the part of being a leader that nobody told you about or prepared you for. And it sucks.

So, to hell with that. It's a perfect time to reach in and leverage your natural confidence to help you:

Natural confidence is your way out of all of that. I define it like this:

With natural confidence, you get to feel like you’re good enough, right now—no conditions.

And that, wouldn’t you just know it, is exactly what I’m here to help you with.

I'll help you think confidently

Your experience is a result of the thinking that happens right there in that magnificent brain of yours.

With better thinking comes a better experience.

Problem is, much of the stuff that goes on in your brain flies way under the radar—an auto-pilot that constantly steers you towards safety and certainty and away from risk and possibility.

Your brain is a bubbling stew of stuff that wants to keep you safe, away from judgement and blame and rejection, and away from feeling not good enough, and it's this thinking that I work on directly.

My confidence coaching works in two ways:

Importantly, my confidence coaching method has been developed and refined since 2002 but it’s not a cookie-cutter, one-size-fits-all approach.

There’s no way I’d confine you (or me) to a linear, restrictive process. We’ll dip in and out of the content as needed, take some spontaneous detours and only use the right things when the time is right for you.

A bullshit-free zone

I want you to make an informed choice about the coach you choose to work with, so I want to be completely transparent about how I work and what it’s like to work with me.

I’ll be your partner-in-crime (note: we probably won’t be committing any actual crimes) and your biggest supporter. I’ll throw you what might be the toughest questions you’ve ever been asked and I’ll poke and prod through your thoughts so we can see what’s helping and hindering you. I’ll get bloody excited when we discover something amazing and I’ll call you on your bullshit.

I’ll always believe in you. I’ll be right there with you. And you can never disappoint me.

With that said, if you want a confidence coach who’s deadly serious and follows “conventional wisdom” that ain’t me. Sorry, but conventional wisdom is all too often generic, homogenised, ineffective mush.

I’ve built my confidence coaching method by looking at what’s actually worked through my 15+ years of coaching, not by following theory or reading a book about how you can be more confident by puffing out your chest.

I have zero interest in wanting to appear really smart or professional, because that stuff gets in the way of me coaching you and giving you my all. Life is equal parts serious and silly, so while I take the serious stuff seriously I laugh right along with the rest of it.

So if you’re looking for a generic, conventional, lip-serving confidence coach then you might want to look elsewhere, and let me wish you all the very best.

Are you ready for confidence coaching?

Continuing in the spirit of transparency, if you:

Then you might not be ready for this.

That’s totally fine—timing can be a real factor in this stuff and I want you to get everything you can from working with me.

I work with a handful of people at a time (between 5 and 10) to ensure I’m giving you every ounce of insight, attention and support I can muster, so if you:

Then we might just make a great team.
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What other people say

I find it to be a fantastic opportunity to gather valuable, unedited, first-hand feedback on where I’m at (and quite often where I feel I’m not at) from this very real, engaging, insightful and quite funny chap who genuinely cares and is steadfastly invested in helping us all suss out the answers we’re searching for.
Cara Vogl

If you’re serious about making your life better then it’s time to give Steve a call.
James Lloyd from Nottingham

I wanted to say thank you. I know what you do is a service and your work but it really is one that changes lives and brings back the pieces that fear clings to. You are an amazing man Steve and you do outstanding work. One of the reasons I feel you do this so well and with integrity, is because you have empathy and experience and it nourishes you to help others. Without which, it would just be hot air.
Tonya from LA

This has been one of the most rewarding things I have ever done for myself. I’m glad I took the time to find a coach that I felt comfortable with because there have been times when I have needed to touch on very private things and I feel completely at ease with that. I’m more confident, have a new excitement about life and a clearer picture of myself.

Never once did you tell me the answer. You guided me to find it myself and that has been the magic!
Stephanie Favell from Norfolk

After looking for a new job in 2015, and then all through 2016 with little luck, I was struggling with a lot of negative self-talk and doubt. I just landed a new job last week. Just wanted to say thanks – for being so damn authentic, and generous with sharing your hard won learning.
Nick Borthwick from New Zealand

To be honest I wasn’t sure how Steve could help me. but, after each session I am amazed at how he did. He has an uncanny way of responding and riffing on a conversation that is just enough listening and advice combined. Really sharp guy.
Paul Lewandowski from Maine

My life and confidence have improved significantly as a result of working with Steve. At work, I am able to remain calm and confident, to know my strength and forgive my weaknesses with compassion. I think honestly his unwavering and genuine faith in me is the fundamental piece that made everything else effective.
Loreline Amilhat from Florida

How it begins...

It all starts with a hassle-free, no-pressure, no-sales-patter conversation, so that:

From the moment you decide on me as your confidence coach I’ll be in your corner, supporting you and cheering you on. It’s you and me, partners in crime.

We’ll meet regularly via Zoom, and continue to talk, ask questions and keep up-to-date on progress via email between those calls.

How long we work together is really up to you, how deep you want to go and what’s of value to you. I’ll never assume to keep working with someone without establishing that there’s value being created.

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