Do Confident People Ever Need Support or Comfort?

Do self-confident and successful people ever feel the need to be supported or comforted by someone?

That's easy.

Hell yes.

Every day we're bombarded with messages and stories about success, and hustling, and crushing it, messages that lead a lot of people to think that they need to be a Terminator-like success-making machine who needs to be able to do it all themselves, or they're falling short.

But the idea that self-confident people don't need support, help, guidance, or comfort from anyone else is crazy like a box of frogs.

  • Confidence is not the same thing as strength
  • Confidence is not the same thing as independence
  • Confidence does not mean you're entirely self-reliant

Confidence doesn't somehow make you an island, where you never need anyone else's input or never need to lean on anyone ever again.

Confidence doesn't make you bulletproof. That's denial, or it's arrogance, or it's hubris.

Far from confidence turning you into an unassailable machine, it's the quality that allows you to be vulnerable. Which makes it easier to ask for support or to be comforted, because you don't make your self-worth dependent on "being strong".

Asking for help, looking for support and seeking comfort aren't weaknesses. They're not things to be eradicated because they somehow make you weak or less than.

Wanting support or comfort simply makes you human, and whole, and looking to put those pieces in place serves to make you more confident, not less.

You will screw up sometimes. Things will go wrong. You won't ever have all the answers. So it makes all the sense in the world to leverage your confidence to allow and invite support and comfort where you need it.

  • It's okay to ask a friend for support when your next step is scary
  • It's okay to want to be comforted after a loss or when the rug gets pulled out from under you 
  • It's okay to seek help when you don't know which way to go or can't do it all yourself

That's what real confidence looks like—trusting your ability to meet each moment fully and making choices that honour who you are.

Needing support and comfort is part of what makes you human, and that's never, ever a bad thing.

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