I never really gave myself credit for walking the marathon that could have killed me. Maybe it’s the Englishman in me, always wanting to remain stoic in the face of success, maybe it’s because I was steeling myself for the payback, or maybe it’s just because it feels too self-indulgent.
I think many of us find it hard to give ourselves credit for the things we’ve done, right? You gloss over something a fraction of a second after you’ve done it, not celebrating your wins even though you’d be first in line to celebrate someone else’s.
Recently though, I’ve deliberately given myself a pat on the back for the marathon, not out of vanity or self-importance, but because of 2 reasons:
- To give myself credit for it is simply about recognising that my actions can sometimes bring about something pretty good.
- To not give myself credit for it feels like I’m sidestepping responsibility simply because it feels a little awkward.
So now, it’s your turn.
- Look at something you’ve done over the last week or month that you helped to bring about; something that you haven’t given yourself credit for. A great result at work, in a personal project, through helping a friend or loved one, or simply being there for someone. Write down something specific that you did.
- What’s the reason you haven’t given yourself credit for the effort you put in or the achievement itself? What belief does it help to support? What’s the pay-off in not giving yourself credit?
- What would giving yourself credit mean? What does it make you confront? What awkwardness needs to be crossed in order to honestly and graciously give yourself some credit?
- Take the thought “I did that. Good job” and take 5 minutes to give yourself credit for what you’ve done. Don’t push it aside, don’t resist it, don’t diminish it. Own it. Celebrate it. You deserve it.
Let me know in the comments how it feels.