Have you ever been really excited about an idea that you couldn't keep it in any more, and just had to tell your friend about it? And then, they're all "meh" about the whole thing and poo-poo it?
What about this - have you had an amazing opportunity come along, that might bounce you up to the next level or beyond, and when you sit down with your other half and talk about how amazing it might be, you watch as they scrunch up their face and tell you all the ways it might not work?
Or, have you ever worked and worked and worked for something you care about, only for your family to take you down a peg or two just as you start seeing how all that work will pay off?
Sometimes, people are schmucks.
And sometimes, people want you to fail. Particularly when it comes to your success.
If you've ever wondered why someone wants you to fail, the reason is that people don’t want you to succeed because they’re afraid.
People want you to fail, because then there's no risk that things will change. Life can continue on an even-keel, risk-free. Phew. Pressure’s off.
Seeing you fuck up offers relief that you won’t grow beyond the confines of the relationship or circumstances. Thank God. We can keep on being us.
And seeing you fail means they don’t have to ask themselves difficult questions about what they want, how they're holding back, or how they could try to better themselves.
Your failure is their blessed relief...
For some, seeing you fail validates how risky it is out there and how much better they are staying safe in the confines of their old choices.
It gives them evidence that supports their choices not to take action, not to go for it, not to try, and it shrouds their insecurity and fear in a warm blanket of comfort and the feeling that they’re the smart one.
But sometimes, sometimes, there are people who see things differently.
These people are fucking awesome.
I'm willing to admit, in front of the whole wide world, that I sometimes get this wrong. I've caught myself being smug when someone fell short and sneering in the face of someones’ success, but I’m trying my best to be like the other type of person.
The kind of person who doesn't want someone to fail simply because it's convenient.
And so let me ask you too, don’t be an ass-hat who wants people to fail or fuck up just because you don’t have the cajones to peer into your own insecurity.
Be the other kind of person.
Be the one who believes.