IGNORING IMPOSTER SYNDROME AND HOPING FOR THE BEST doesn't work

Here's how to deal with it...

3 Key takeaways...

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You're not an imposter

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You're way better than you even know

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We're all doing the best we can

What did you take away from the video?

In the comments below, let me know about your experience of Imposter Syndrome and what you'll try differently now...

  • Thanks for making this available. Imposter syndrome is something I’ve been struggling with for as long as I can remember. It’s not something that can be “cured” overnight, rather something we need to work on for as long as it takes. It’s hard, but the other alternative is to just stay stuck and miserable. Enjoyed this video and the strategies are really useful.

    P.S. If I want to share this video, do I just use this page’s link, or send them over to your main site and have them sign up for it themselves?

    • You’re right, managing it is a practice. It might be clumsy or awkward at first, but like any practice, you can get better at it.
      Go ahead and share the link with those who you think would find it useful.

  • I think that there is a lot of “meat” to this video and I can internalize the lessons. However, I think in the context of work, there is often unrealistic expectation of perfection and those that can b.s. the best excel. I am stumped about how to find a culture where the actual contribution is more important than impression management. It just feels like you HAVE start out as a fraud. The whole thing makes it difficult to have confidence, which, for me, is a byproduct of acting with integrity.

    • Unfortunately, I think there are still a lot of organisations that prioritise optics above contribution. Those days are numbered though, I truly believe, although it probably varies a lot by industry and region.

      • I guess my question is, then, how to find out the true culture and values of an organization so that one can find the right fit. Hint: “Best Places To Work” lists are NOT the answer. P.S. Steve, I love the work you are doing. It uses what is uniquely you to the highest good in bringing same out in others. Bravo.

        • My hunch is that you only know the true culture and values of an org by being in there and experiencing it. You can ask people, but of course they’ll be filtering their experience through their own lenses.

          And THANK YOU SO MUCH! Very kind of you to say.

  • Imposter Syndrome is just a terrible thing for me. I’m an older software engineer and never think I’m worthy of a new position or even the one I already have. I’m writing my achievement’s and such right now.

    • I hear you James. Imposter Syndrome can be way more common in people with experience who might be in an older demographic. Take some time on the exercises, and let me know if I can help.

  • The stories and the spaces strategies were really useful. The realism is I don’t feel good about myself at work because the goals and communications aren’t clear despite seeking clarification and there’s not a lot I can do about that because my personal values mean achievement is important to me in growing and I cant ignore that. I’ve been telling myself stories about this for years when really I just need to move on somewhere where I’m more appreciated for my drive and determination. Writing down my talents and strengths was also very useful, I didn’t know the many skills I had were classed as strengths and I should appreciate more my natural talents. Great workshop, thank you.

    • Thanks Caroline! You might be right. When a workplace has part of its culture that flies in the face of one of your personal values, then you have a choice to a. try to change it, b. accept it, or c. move on. Whichever is chosen, it’s important that you make sure you’re okay while it’s happening.

  • I think now, that I have had imposter syndrome in too many spaces for most of my life and would just “fake until I make it” to get thru it. Now I see that this has been the number one barrier in my life to being happy, not necessarily success. So I suppose fake until you make it can get you thru things but I was never happy with that strategy. With these tools I feel for the first time that I can actually tackle and win with this problem. That gave me an enormous relief and I think I will finally sleep well. Thank you

    • Wow, thanks so much Gabby. Yeah, “fake it til you make it” can help with a short-term boost to get you through, but it’s no good for long term confidence. So thrilled that you’re better equipped now!

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