Making a decision is tough, but how do you know if you're making the right decision?
It's easy when something amazing is about to happen, and you yell "Yes please" because it's a no-brainer.
But other times making the right decision is trickier than having sex on four sharp rocks and more painful than getting a pedicure from a rabid doberman.
That's the thing with decisions; you don't know until afterwards whether it was a good one or a bad one.
Here's just a tiny handful of mine.
- I never went to drama school, and still wonder "What if..."
- I chose to spend way beyond my means in the 1990's and created huge debt
- I decided to ignore my bisexuality until I was well into my 30's
- I decided to buy my own home
- I chose to spend several summers in Portland, Oregon
The ramifications of these choices, and more, are part of my life now. And that's the thing.
The only way to know whether a decision is the right one, is to be on the other side of it
From the far side of a decision, you can take a look and make a call as to whether you'd make the same choice again.
But unless you've fitted a flux capacitor to your Prius you can't know this ahead of time. And if you can't know whether the choice you're about to make is right or wrong, the "right" or "wrong" judgement becomes redundant.
All you've got to go on is what's right here, right now.
And as you always make choices in the present, and as there's no way of knowing what's going to happen before it happens, there's only one way for you to know whether a decision might be the right one.
Because it matters
A decision that's based on what matters to you, what rings true, what resonates, and what has meaning, will always be a good choice.
Making the right decision will always be easier, simpler and less confusing if it's based on what really matters to you.
That's how you know.
Forget about right and wrong.
Look at what matters and what doesn't.
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