Are you fed up, frustrated or tired?
Something nagging at you or draining you?
Are you putting up with stuff that consistently pisses you off?
Got the goat, moved it into the spare room and now cleaning up after it?
It’s funny how these things can creep up on you isn’t it? (Apart from the goat-getting that is, the smell kinda gives the game away on that one.)
Things can be peachy one day, then the next thing you know you’re tetchy, knackered and just wanting people to shut up and get out of your way already.
Tolerations drain you gradually but markedly
Tolerations are those things in your environment that drain you or divert you unnecessarily. They’re the things you think you should put up with, either because it’s easier that way or you just accept them as “the way things are“.
A leaky tap. A cheap and uncomfortable office chair. A partner who puts you down. A cupboard full of cakes and salty snacks. A friend who sabotages. Untouched paperwork. Nagging back pain. A noisy neighbour. An unsupportive boss. No creative outlet.
There’s no doubt about it, with an environment around you that’s filled with tolerations, your quality of life is going to suck more than a Dyson in a quantum singularity.
That’s a lot of suckiness.
Tolerations are a consistent drain on your focus and energy, which in turn means you’ll be less able to think deliberately and clearly about your wants and choices.
So you slip into living your life by default
And as you know, living by default is not how you get to put your dent into anything.
It’s by exerting a little effort to reduce, eliminate or manage your tolerations that you get to create an environment that adds to your sense of self rather than taking away from it. Your environment starts to breathe life into who you are and what you want, rather than strangling the life out of you.
So, how about giving this your best shot?
- What is there around you that you’re been putting up with? It might be something that you know is draining you, something that’s been frustrating you or something that you’ve been avoiding. Look through what you have at home, at work, among your friends, with your partner, in your finances, concerning your health or even among your spiritual beliefs to find one thing that you’ve been putting up with that’s been draining or diverting you.
- You can do something to fix a leaky tap, but you can’t do much to change the weather. If your toleration is something you have direct control over, what one action could you take that will positively impact it? Can you make a call, have a conversation, put a plan together, set a new commitment or take another action that will either reduce, eliminate or manage this toleration?
- If your toleration is something you don’t have direct control over (like the weather, the financial markets or what someone else thinks), what do you need to change in order to be okay with it? What’s another way of looking at it that doesn’t drain you?
- Looking at your answer for steps 3 or 4, what will you do today?
Let me know in the comments what toleration you want to do something about and the action you’ll commit to…